Crazy Relationships -- What it means to be Challenged

I've always loved the idea of a relationship that's more than just compatability. I grew up as a fighter. My mother and I spent the better part of my high school years in constant argument. My father takes an attitude toward fighting as if it's normal conversation. It's probably not healthy but it's part of who I am at this point.
I would never want to be with someone who would be afraid to throw it back in my face when I'm being stupid and/or hypocritical. My best friend is like that. He doesn't even let me get in more than one stupid sentence before he cuts me off with a long speech about why I'm wrong and stupid and how that's not how something goes. Sometimes it pisses me off. Most of the time. But despite that he's usually right.
He's always said that I should be with someone who'll adore me completely, the yin to my loud, silly, slightly neurotic yang. Sometimes I agree that this would be the best thing as a long-term solution. But right now I want that kind of passionate love you get with someone who annoys you more than you can possibly imagines sometimes but also holds you close and tells you their deepest fears. Maybe I'm just crazy. But I don't think I could be with someone who didn't challenge me. I need someone who's not going to be anyone less than the best version of myself.